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The Price Softener in Real Estate: Avoids direct money conversations

The Price Softener is one of the 13 R2R archetypes. Avoids direct money conversations. It is a behavior pattern, not a personality type, and it can change.

The Price Softener is one of the 13 R2R archetypes. Avoids direct money conversations. It is a behavior pattern, not a personality type, and it can change.

What it looks like

Why it persists

Money talk feels confrontational, so softening it feels polite. It also lowers the agent's perceived value.

What it costs

Lower fees and weaker pricing positions.

What to do about it

  1. Script the fee statement and practice it aloud.
  2. State the value before the number.
  3. Stop talking after stating the number.

For brokers and team leaders

Listen to a few fee conversations. Early discounting is easy to hear. See also the page on why good agents discount before anyone asks.

Frequently asked questions

Where does early discounting come from?

Often from the expectation of an objection that has not happened yet. The article on why good agents discount before anyone asks covers it.

How do I find out if this is my pattern?

The R2R Assessment identifies a primary archetype plus secondary and tertiary patterns.

Is this a diagnosis?

No. It describes a work behavior pattern and is not medical or mental health advice.

Related reading: All 13 archetypes · The R2R Assessment · Sales reluctance · Real estate agent assessment

Dr. Jeffrey Scott Stanton, DCH is the former EVP of Learning & Development at Douglas Elliman Real Estate and the founder and Chief Learning Officer of R2R Diagnostic Group, where he helps real estate organizations and agents diagnose and fix the behavioral patterns behind inconsistent performance.

Name the pattern, then change it.

The R2R Assessment identifies which pattern is actually running and what to do about it. Take a look at the assessment, or book a conversation.